Dialogue: on True Love
Guys would always be amazed knowing that I am in an eight-year relationship with HB. Readers of this blog would wonder how could that be considering how I flirted with guys and made out with them inside the relationship. Perhaps in the mind of these people, I have this sort of “secret”. This is the reason why maybe it cannot be avoided that some guys would ask my opinion on this matter.
dale: may tanung ako?
trey: anu yun?
dale: may true love ba sa same sex relationship?
trey: define true love.
dale: ung alam mong kuntento ka sa kanya
trey: meron. kuntento na ako sa partner ko.
dale: wow. Ayus. live in ba kau?
trey: yup.
dale: panu ung setip?
trey: anung setup? sige uwi na ako. next time na lang.
That was an immediate reply, without any hesitation. It took a while before the question and my reply sink in. Am I true enough with my answer? Am I really contented with HB? If I am, why I am still the biggest flirt in the planet? Or I am just true to what I believe that sex will not always be equal to love.
True love. It is truly and highly a conceptual phrase. Unless we could not define it with something concrete, we would only be stuck up with our mouths wide open. HUH? Right now, the first thing that came up in my mind is that ideal thing called as unconditional love. But sorry, I hardly believe on that concept.
Man by nature is supposed to be insatiable. We are not contented with life. We are always seeking. Seeking for something better, seeking for the best. Unfortunately, we do know that we do not always get what we want. Thus, we tend to stop somewhere else. But when do we know when to stop? Surprisingly, it is when we feel that we have already exhausted ourselves, everything. Contentment is when man learns that no matter how he spent time seeking for something or someone, at the end of the day, he would settle for what he already has.
I guess the most important thing in finding true love is to look always at the present. We need to contend with what we have now. If we are having a relationship right now, let us treasure it, relish it, and do the most of what we are having. Let us not dwell on the past because they are already lessons learned. Let us not look towards the future because they are dreams uncertain.
The wise old monkey said, “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. Enjoy it. That’s why it is called the 'present'.”
True love. It is truly and highly a conceptual phrase. Unless we could not define it with something concrete, we would only be stuck up with our mouths wide open. HUH? Right now, the first thing that came up in my mind is that ideal thing called as unconditional love. But sorry, I hardly believe on that concept.
Man by nature is supposed to be insatiable. We are not contented with life. We are always seeking. Seeking for something better, seeking for the best. Unfortunately, we do know that we do not always get what we want. Thus, we tend to stop somewhere else. But when do we know when to stop? Surprisingly, it is when we feel that we have already exhausted ourselves, everything. Contentment is when man learns that no matter how he spent time seeking for something or someone, at the end of the day, he would settle for what he already has.
I guess the most important thing in finding true love is to look always at the present. We need to contend with what we have now. If we are having a relationship right now, let us treasure it, relish it, and do the most of what we are having. Let us not dwell on the past because they are already lessons learned. Let us not look towards the future because they are dreams uncertain.
The wise old monkey said, “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. Enjoy it. That’s why it is called the 'present'.”

















