Interlude: The 3rd CR

“There should be rest rooms exclusive for gays.” It’s 8 o’clock in the morning and I am hearing this from no other than the “Mo Twister”. Although I don’t have much proclivity towards this personality because of his unrelenting chauvinistic sensibilities, his silly ideas always trigger some neuron in my brain.

The DJ was again complaining about the disturbing behavior of some homosexuals in men’s room. He said that homosexuals have tendencies of making sexual advances inside public urinals and he backed it up with an experiment that they did in Shangrila Mall together with his co-DJ, “Mojo Jojo”, who is a self-confessed homosexual.

During the entire time slot, the program entertained callers from both sexual orientations. Some would agree with the Mo while some disagree. There was a vehement protest from Mojo of course. He said that not all gays would do such a thing and creating a CR for gays would only spell discrimination.

Mo however reiterated that it is not discrimination but only to give due respect to the male heteros who want to deal their nature call without the distracting presence of homosexuals on their sides. “How could it be called comfort room if we are not comfortable at all?” One of the callers said.

That was Monday’s edition of the program and coincidentally a fellow blogger, Jamie, have heard it too and immediately posted an entry about the topic. Jamie made a very valid remark suggesting a domino effect if Mo’s suggestion would be considered.

There are a lot of times that someone (homo or hetero is insignificant) beside me would take a peek at what I am holding with my hand when peeing. Sometimes it would interrupt the flow and it’s quite difficult to continue. Most of the times, I would just ignore them and focus on what I am doing. Am I infuriated with the behavior? Surprisingly, just a little bit.

My friends call me exhibitionist. That’s perfectly true not in the psychosexual sense but the au naturel sense. I think there is really nothing to be ashamed of our nudity or of what we are hiding underneath. We may come in different colors and sizes but the thing is we possess what others possess. We are only embarrassed because we were conditioned by our culture to feel that way.

So what is the main reason why Mo and his fellows like to segregate homosexuals from “their” restrooms? Is it really respect and comfort? Probably yes, but what is this respect and comfort rooted from? I guess it is rooted from the insecurity, conscious or subconscious, of discovering that others are superior to them.

The 3rd CR is not a solution to the so-called disturbing behavior of some homosexual men. It would only add insult to the injury and further the battle of the “gender”. It would further breed prejudice and discrimination to the “few”. It is sad but it is a fact that insecurity of ones nakedness has become a mental condition of the social system and it is very difficult to relearn what is by nature.

So far, tolerance and sensibilities are still the best remedy to such improprieties until humans are still evolving and learning to become mature members of the society.